Raising Children to engage in REAL life

We had some company a while back with some teenagers… which made me thankful for the stage of life I am now in. 😉

After they left I told my husband how sad it is that children, teenagers & even adults don’t know how to interact with REAL people anymore.  I mean they came in looking for a place to plug their phones!  They plopped down on the couches zoned into their electronic contraptions.  Real conversation was foreign to them & what little they did was with a phone in hand with very little eye contact. 

Sad.

But the sad thing is- it was somewhat the same with the adults.  Sports update here.  Text. Facebook notification.  The list goes on.  

This is so sad to me.  I don’t want this for my kids.  

I mean they already ask for games on phones now… at 3,4 & 6!!!  

How do we stop this?  

My husband & I have really been considering this- & how we want our kids to be when they become teenagers.  We don’t want kids who have NO idea how to interact other than texting.  We want them to engage in real life! 

We have recently been weeding out out DVD collection.  We’ve realized that we want to be a learning/reading family & in order to achieve that we must do that.  So slowly I’m ebaying them off- to invest in wholesome BOOKS & such.  

It is so hard in this day & time- I feel like we have to compete with EVERYTHING as parents.  Kids don’t get bored anymore- they are constantly entertained by the world.  I refuse to give in to the world’s distractions.  I will fight to deprive my children of these distractions & teach them to value the importance of their imagination & REAL LIFE. 

I have discovered as well (in the past couple of months) that there is no community if you are not apart of the social media aspect of things.  That’s where everyone interacts now!  How sad that is for so many young mothers.  I’m not downing social media- totally.  I can see where it has it’s good sides.  But when it becomes strictly how people converse… something is wrong.  I have made it my purpose to be intentional with real life relationships.

 It breaks my heart- really it does. 

Do you have any thoughts?  How do you handle things like this with your children?

 

First Timothy 2:15

I never considered this scripture until yesterday, when it was brought out in our church service.

15Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing(or child rearing/training), if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.

Many times (I know I do) we as mothers look at our daily, mundane activities & think- “I’m doing the same thing day after day after day.  Does it really matter?”  Or if you are really like me- the questions go a little something like this: “Why do I have to keep on cleaning up pee/poop day after day after day?” “Why do I have to listen to constant whining day in & day out?”  “why, why why…”  “why is motherhood so hard?”

Well yesterday I shared with my church family about how I feel like being a mother could help me overcome mySELF.  And how everyday I’m faced with losing more of mySELF.  But the key is HOW am I doing that?  Am I d oing it the correct way?  Am I continuing in FAITH, CHARITY, HOLINESS- WITH SOBRIETY?

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Faith: a : allegiance to duty or a person : loyalty (1) : fidelity to one’s promises (2) : sincerity of intentions

Charity: 1: benevolent goodwill toward or love of humanity

Holiness: 1: the quality or state of being holy

Sobriety: the quality or state of being sober

Am I all those things… daily?  Do I show faith to my family?  Am I charitable?  Am I holy in my attitude?  Am I doing all of those things with SOBRIETY?

Sadly, I have to say, “no”.  I.am.not.  I am just not there yet.  But what I’ve come to realize is this- you don’t get there overnight… it takes a lifetime.  And I also will not get there by having distractions distracting me from my goal as a mother & wife.  I am to be being saved through what I’m doing right now… raising & training children.  By being consistent in what I’m doing.  This is a serious job & it has GREAT significance!  I’m the only person to do this job in my home- me the mother of our children.  If I don’t… who will? But I must do it right in order to continue overcoming mySELF.  With faith, charity, holiness & with sobriety.  I must consider this job important- not just trying to get through this phase & on to the next.  THIS PHASE OR SEASON IS IMPORTANT!!! Our children’s little soils are soaking up everything we say & do- trust me I know… I have a mini me right now!  She is my daily mirror… allowing me to see things I don’t like about myself… things I want to change.

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But… it’s tough.  How do we change?  How do we “get over ourSELF?”  One I believe we need the help of a very merciful LORD.  And two- we don’t need to feel defeated every time we “mess up”.  When we feel defeated we are right where the enemy wants us mothers to be… he wants to defeat us.  So… why do we want to give him what he wants?  We are children of the MOST HIGH!  We need to look up “for our redemption draweth nigh!”  Even when we lose it- “our redemption draweth nigh!”  The key is : LOOK UP!!! Don’t be defeated!!!!  Instead of taking two steps backwards lets STOP & LOOK UP & allow the LORD to hold our hand & simply make the next step without losing ANY ground!  WE can do this!  He wouldn’t have called us to this job (calling) if HE didn’t want us to make it!  It takes a lot of work, but HE wants us to make it!  I intend to- I intend on making it.  I want my children to rise & call me blessed! And I don’t mean that in a selfish, pious way… I want them to call me blessed because they witnessed what the LORD could do with a willing vessel & want that themselves!  That’s my desire.

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I hope that encourages you… it did me. 🙂

We’re getting a dog!

We have been planning on getting a dog for sometime now.  We actually told our oldest daughter we would get her one when she turned 5.  That didn’t work out because I had the baby & my youngest was still in diapers & the middle son was just barely potty trained.  So the deal became that when she turned 6 we would get a dog.   She will be 6 next month- we will have our new puppy tomorrow afternoon!!!   Yay for us!  I’m not totally thrilled with the idea of more poop to deal with, however, I think it’ll be worth it 🙂

Today we went & got all the things we need to have a dog.  When I say “we”  I do mean all SIX (we have 4 children 6 & under) of us.  We rarely do this- get out I mean ALTOGETHER.  We pretty much avoid it at all costs.  It exhausts me to think about getting everyone ready & out the door to do anything especially if there will be other human beings where we plan on going.  Especially strangers.  I worry about about everyone (kids) freaking out at the same time.  I worry about having to take them to nasty public bathrooms (so we actually go to the bathroom twice before we leave- once before they get dressed & then again before they get in the car).  I worry about parking lots.

Well, anywho- we geared ourselves up for the challenge because we wanted the kids to be part of “getting ready” for our new dog.  Everything went well considering.  🙂  I noticed a few looks (at how many little ones we had), but only one comment today.

Here it is:

“You gotcha a boat load there huh?”

We just smile.

I often wonder how come more people can’t say positive things.  Like “Wow, what a nice looking family”.

What about you?  Do you say positive things to other mothers (parents)?  What are some things you say?

I challenge you to encourage or say ONE positive thing to a young mother you see in public.  I bet you would make someones YEAR!