7 things to encourage a mother of the “Little Years”

1. Tell her she’s doing a good job.  I can’t tell you how important this is to young mothers.  Especially when you’re in a restaurant or store & maybe your child(children) isn’t behaving perfectly.  Some times instead of glares… just tell me it’s okay & you’re doing a good work.

2. Ask her if there’s anything you can help her with.

3. If you’re in her area call or text her & see if you can drop off a cup of coffee or something she likes. Some days this would be so lovely.  My husband is good at surprising me from time to time like this 🙂

4. Take her to lunch. My husband gives me “breaks” often.  Sometimes it would be so nice to go out with a wiser lady who would encourage me in my walk with the LORD.  And offer good sound advice on motherhood.  Not offer formulas etc., but just encourage me. 

5. Send her a card- just because you were thinking about her & wanted her to know someone was praying for her.  This lifts my spirits more than a lot of things.

6. See if there’s a household job you can help her with every now & then. CAN I GET AN AMEN!!!!

7. If you have teens- encourage them to be a help to a mother of little ones… without charge (ironing, folding, dusting, bathrooms).  I have found that many teens are willing to “help out”… if you offer them enough money.  But we’re on a budget.  If I could afford a house cleaner then I would get one.  I will raise my children to work- to serve others out of the love in their hearts for that person & their family- not for cash. 

Do you have any to add to this list?

Learning My Season of Life

Learning my Season of Life…

Here not too long ago I was feeling somewhat confused & perhaps a bit discouraged, about what all I was supposed to be doing as a mother/wife.  I felt like a bit of a failure because I couldn’t do all the things I thought I should be doing.  I wasn’t involved in many things… well nothing at church.  We weren’t even at church as frequent as I thought (at that time) we should be.  We no longer clean church- something I’ve done practically my whole life.  No longer did I attend prayer meetings.  Going to church meetings- another thing I’ve done my whole life- has been put on hold for a period of time- mostly due to circumstances of where we live etc.  The list goes on.   I looked at all the things I wasn’tdoing… and in some ways it made me feel like “less than a Christian”, especially when you look around & see other mother’s who are able to juggle it all.

I was really having a hard time.  And even though my wise husband encouraged me often that “this is a season” I still struggled inwardly with all this.  One day I was driving & I began to direct all those thoughts toward the Lord.  And I felt HE answered me- not audibly, but HE caused me to think differently about it.

He reminded me of when I was a single woman of how I worked so hard (Naturally) for HIM.  Doing all the things listed above and more.  I was faithful in those things.  But as I got married & started having children that my service had to turn to them & that by servingthem I was still serving HIM.  I am convicted that my GREATEST service is to my family.  Some may not understand that… but the Bible clearly states the woman’s place in the order of God.

Titus 2:3-5

3The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;

4That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,

5To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

As a mother & a wife my job is clearly stated in Titus 2.  I cannot fully serve the LORD without doing this.  I like how Tara over at Too Many Kids in the Bathtub put it in one of her recent posts.

But often times we we are discouraged in our efforts. Why?

Because we are operating out of the season God intends for us to be in.

I would encourage you to read her post.  It’s VERY good.

I don’t want to be the mom who “does everything” & fails to serve my family- which inevitably means failing the LORD.  Some view that differently I’m sure… but I believe with a proper balance & consistency is key.  I do think you can go so far right… but you can also go so far left too.  And maintaining that balance is a process.

My desire is to operate fully in the season of life that GOD has afforded me NOW!!  I’m the only one that can do this job.  This is my season of life… I’m to learn to walk joyfully in it.  And I’m doing just that… LEARNING.

MC900446418   It’s about the heart… not altogether the actions or the outward appearance.  Who cares if we do all these wonderful things if our hearts & the hearts of our children are not right?  When my children are grown I want them to have a heart for the LORD & not just go through the motions.  I’m still learning the  how  of this… but I think that’s apart of this thing called life… 🙂

I hope this encourages someone today.

“Create in me a clean heart oh God…”